….is something you give yourself. It means not having to remember a painful memory that must be tolerated any more. Not having to re-live a hurt someone or something caused you. A way to relieve the burden. So, the ego is all about self. It’s all about preserving the shrine of self. Should a cut or breach occur in this pristine and fragile shell, the immediate response is usually retribution, retaliation, revenge. It seems this would mean forgiving is a personal slight to one’s ego.
Wow. Can a loving person have such a reaction?
You know the answer. Why do you think the phrase “Seventy times seven” still floats around the subject? It takes practice. If you are tired of avoiding a certain someone; if you don’t want a particular memory to continue to plague you, next time it comes to mind: Forgive. Forgive the other person, forgive the situation, forgive yourself. Yes, yourself… even your ego, for holding on to the whole thing. Keep going until you can say to yourself: it doesn’t matter anymore. I’m done with it, and it will never be a burden to me again. Then replace that space with love for all of it, and move on.
You know what I mean, and yes, you can do it.